Did I Marry the Right Person?

Did I Marry The Right Person? "When a man loves a women she can do no wrong..." How do I know I married the right one..? One of the myths of current days of romance is that there is a right one. The starry eyes of lovers, hear the constant drum beat, you need a soul mate, your missing half and you need to be happy! That can be very damaging and confusing because after the movie screen feelings cool and that first blast of euphoria cools off, it is possible you may at times ask the question did I get this all wrong? The right one may still be out there somewhere. The one who will truly complete me. You are no longer "in love" with your mate. What to do? What to do? Look in the mirror and decide: Am I covenant breaker? Does my Word mean anything? Do I believe in God? Do I believe God is the giver of all good things and my mate is a gift from him? Or am I a quitter? Harsh, but something for all of us to confront. If you decide you love God and want to stay married, get on your knees and beg God for the life of your marriage. Decide this is your one and only and start doing things people do that are in love . The Japanese as well as other cultures around the world have a saying, "you marry the women you love and we love the women we marry." it is interesting to note that the idea of marriage for love is a relatively new one. For centuries marriages were arranged by the parents and it is even more interesting the track record of these marriages was very successful. Please don't misunderstand I am glad my parents did not make my choice but it does beg the point about today's view of relationships and the rampant excuses for divorce court. The reality is the U.S. has the highest divorce rate and over 60-70 percent of second marriages end in divorce. Love… and I mean real love, is always a choice. That is why God commands it. Men are to love their wives and not grow bitter towards them. Women are to respect and submit to the Godly leadership of their husbands. If this was not a choice it could not be a command. If you make this choice to love, the love God will give you is like a cup of water compared to the Ocean of love. Enjoy sacred romance. And the dance of a great marriage. Things you can do to make your marriage not only work but bring back the passion as well! 1. Turn to the best answer book for the best advice, The Bible. Ephesians 5 is fabulous message on marriage and relationships in general. 2. Pray together and spend time in His Word together. Time together is a precious commodity but time together in Gods Word is more precious than gold or silver. 3. Set Goals together: How would you like your marriage to look? What needs improvement? (Notice I didn't say who needs improvement) Ask yourselves how can we make this the best marriage ever? We plan and work for success in business and spend so little time planning and working for success in our marriages. 4. Look for advice and examples of great marriages. Listen to the advice? Stop getting your picture of relationships and marriage from the movie world or the Internet. These actors and writers are all divorced and we want to model life after what we see. Come on.. Think. Also when you take advice about marriage from one of your divorced friends come on ...think. Have you ever heard the saying "misery loves company." So much of what we see presented today creates an unrealistic "cultural fantasy" that is not working. It is so much better to look at marriage through the lens of a Biblical worldview lens. 5. Today there are many reasons society has put in place to discourage marriage. Estate and money issues ...issues with children The secularists have set laws in place that do not encourage marriage. Don't be fooled; there is great joy in marriage especially if you do it Gods way. The choice is yours - trust God or do not . 6. Seek out a loving older wiser couple to mentor you. Don't be afraid to ask the hard questions - they have heard and seen it all in their own marriage. 7. The question? But what if my mate just does not want to stay married. You can only control you. The choices in life still boil down to individual ...no one can live the life of another. Our advice then is to seek God for comfort and peace in the storm and let them go. Whatever you do ...do not get into another relationship till the final divorce papers are signed. Pray for your marriage and God may restore it to even a better place than before.

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