Why can't Mommy and Daddy live together

Why Can't Mommy and Daddy Live Together with me Just heard another marriage is being destroyed and kids torn as the family crumbles. It sounds so easy, but we can tell you from experience. We have watched even in our own family, the pain has just begun. The devastation and long term ramifications are just beginning. The future is not " the grass is greener" and the hope of change and moving on never really happens especially if children are involved. Satan seeks whoever he can to devour and today he is devouring one family after another and reveling in the destruction. Society in general is experiencing the results of such selfishness everywhere we look. If you tear apart families you tear apart the country. Statistics tell us that first marriages stand a 45 % chance of not going the distance. We all know decisions, and choices have consequences. Why is it we will fight for so many things and fight hard in some cases ...especially to win? Win with our health, win with our business. We even ask others to follow certain prescriptions for success but we are blinded to the fact that these same prescriptions for success apply to marriage and family. We are told to not quit when it comes to lifting weights or running a race. We are told quitters are never going to make it in business or on their job. Yet those same people give up on the important gift God has given them ...marriage and family. Divorce is now so prevalent. I think what we are seeing today in American society is more a result of the breakdown in marriage and family than anything else. Satan knows how to strategically take down the foundational pinning of Gods plan and the chaos that will result. Today 25% of people between the ages of 18 and 44 have parents who have divorced at least once. The momentum of this has been fueled; the attitude of moving on if the marriage is "difficult one." But ask yourself if the workout at the gym is hard, do you move on? If the business you are involved in is hard, do you move on? So why is it so easy to move on with our marriages and families? If you have children in your lives, we often selfishly rush to improve "our" lives and forget them. Sometimes the adults in the triangle of love called a family, convince themselves the children would be better off and be happier if we call it quits. I can't tell you the pain and the acting out I have witnessed as I work with children in public schools that come from divorced families.. So much of that pain translates and transfers in later life. The pain often is in the inherent difficulties that appear later in life. Divorce is a life altering decision for children. A transforming difference with many times, deep regrets and pain for the parents but also the complete extended family. As Beth and I work with children and watch the results of divorce in our own children, we are more and more convinced that many have been fooled and have given into the spirit of divorce and now are making the best attempts they can to move on. But it is never the same again as new people enter the intimate bond of their family. Gods ways are so much better than mans ways. To God marriage is a covenant. A covenant is stronger than and agreement. God himself is a witness to the agreement. When two people become one flesh in the sexual experience of life there is a union of spirit. At this point the connection has a direct effect on the mind. Everything changes through this act. God designed it this way ... That is why so many who have sexual relations before marriage and do not marry that person struggle with intimacy issues and trust issues later in life. For the children of divorce it will no longer be a two parent home. It will become a different definition of family ..not the one God designed but instead blended. A family where children, especially younger children, often have a less stable and some cases a more volatile relationship. May I encourage everyone facing difficulties in their marriage to remember God is always present. He knows each of you intimately. He knows everything you say and do He knows every pain and sorrow in your marriage.. and guess what? He deeply loves you! He wants you to stop and remember those fun and happy moments with each other and your kiddos. He wants you to stop and focus on your spouses strengths rather than their weaknesses. He wants you to look to Him for healing.. More than anything He wants you to forgive each other and be restored..and have your marriage restored. Think for a moment what He did for us out of His love for each of us.. He gave us His only Son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins ..he is perfect and sinless and did not have to be but instead chose to forgive. Did you get that? None of us deserve it yet. He chose to forgive and re- establish His relationship with us.. Forgiveness is a gift and a choice. A gift for you and choice that has consequences for you. If you want to transform your life, marriage or family consider how to make God's presence the central focus of all.

Now with this all said, I must add a caveot.. God has laid out His plan for marriage and family - it is to be life long. Gods ways are the best but man with the nudge of Satan himself can cause "irreparable" damage when a mate is guilty of sexual immorality, abuse, vagrancy and destructive addictions....and is unwilling to repent and live faithfully. Divorce is allowed but not required. Some couples have been even able to overcome this and with the divine help of God restore what was ashes to new life.

For those who have experienced the pain of divorce and have moved on and are now in new marriages, this blog is in no way attempting to give you a ticket to a guilt trip. Instead I want to encourage you with that fact; God can and does bring healing. There may be scars but, This is a new opportunity to do things God's way in the future. God has a prescription for success in life. His truths can be applied in every part of our lives. It is so very important you and I know the total and complete truth by reading and studying the only truth one can completely trust, the Bible. I wrote this blog to help not hurt,I do not want to see one more prayer request from a child or a child crying as they tell me mommy and daddy no longer live together. Why can't my mommy and daddy come home? In future blogs I will address the effects on today's society in general.

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